ENDLESS PAIN

She had very strong labor pains. She remembered that she had begged the doctors for painkillers. She could not give birth normally and had to have a cesarean section. She suffered for several hours. It was definitely one of the hardest nights of her life. The journey that had brought her daughter into the world had hurt her so much.

Looking back over the years, she had already forgotten the pain. The only thing she could not forget was that her husband had come to the hospital without even bringing a bouquet of flowers. The only person who sent flowers was her father. 

She had not actually expected flowers;

She just wanted to know that her husband was thinking of her.

This day was no ordinary day. It was the most important day in this family’s entire life. She needed her husband’s support on this day more than any other. Many people came and went, but her eyes were looking for her husband.

After her husband arrived, he spent the whole evening talking to the guests. 

Suddenly he decided to leave and said;

 "The players from our team are coming. I am going to have dinner with them. However, someone will be staying here with you." 

For her, this was more painful than the pain of the cesarean section. She has never been able to forget that night, and her feelings towards her husband have never calmed down.

People want to be understood and valued in their lives. She wanted that too. But she has never managed to get her husband’s attention. In her eyes, he is a selfish and lazy person who rarely thinks about anything other than himself.

After a while, she lost hope of a happy marriage and became quiet. She devoted herself entirely to her children. She also spends some time with her neighbors.

One day, one of her friends came over for a cup of coffee. They started talking about happiness.

"To be happy or unhappy is a person’s own will. It does not matter where you are or who you are with."

Was it really like that? And how? She could not understand what her friend was saying.

People always want to be happy in their lives. But if that person does not know what the concept of happiness is, they do not know how to be happy. Is happiness about possessions or the ability to be content?

She wished there was a magic wand. With this wand she wanted to reshape her husband’s behavior to her will. When she looked at herself, she realized that she was perfect and complete. Then she thought that her husband was the only source of trouble in her life. For her, he is the only one who needs to change.

When people are not happy with what they have, they blame the outside world.

They constantly say to themselves: "I did my best, but he only did what he wanted. He has not expressed his love for me for a long time. He doesn’t hold my hand. I don’t think he loves me. He doesn’t appreciate me."

Indeed, all the outcomes we face depend on our efforts and costs. Knowing this, she placed a huge burden on her shoulders. 

If you want to be happy, you have to make yourself happy. 

The strategy to happiness is hidden in the systems of life.

If you want to see the truth in life, you need to know the rules of life. When people know the rules of life, their perspective and problem-solving style changes.

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Deneyimsel Tasarım Öğretisi, Kim Kimdir, İlişkilerde Ustalık, Başarı Psikolojisi, Yahya Hamurcu